1.THREE REQUIREMENTS FOR BUILDING HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
JAMES 1:20 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
Healthy relationships require good communication
1JOHN 1:7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all
EPHESHIANS 4:15,25,29 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
PROVERBS 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.
PROVERBS 18:6 The lips of fools bring them strife, and their mouths invite a beating.
PROVERBS 11:9 With their mouths the godless destroy their neighbors, but through knowledge the righteous escape.
NOT ALL WORDS CARRY EQUAL WEIGHT
EPESHIANS 6:4 Fathers,do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
2. Good communication requires understanding
Your first priority in a relationship is to understand, not to be understood.
PSALM 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
PROVERBS 15:23 A person finds joy in giving an apt reply- and how good is a timely word!
PROVERBS 20:5 The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out.
EPHESIANS 4:26-27 In your anger do not sin.” Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.
Understanding turns conflict into conversation.
PROVERBS 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
3. Understanding requires listening
PHILIPPIANS 2:3-5 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others. In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:
EPHESIANS 4:2-3, 15 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.
1CORINTHIANS 13:4-7 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts always hopes, always perseveres